I’ve been reading and talking and thinking about racism a lot lately. One of the reasons I’ve refrained from posting any long treatises on racism bere is that I don’t think I’ve really “figured it out” yet. In some sense, as a white person, I never will.
But I wanted to share with the other white people who read this blog a basic truth that I’ve come to believe, something which was hard to realize, but which I am pretty confident in today:
All white people do and say racist things. By extension, all white people are racist.
The classic white response to this is “That’s crazy. Some white people are racist, but not all of us.” Probably some of you are thinking that right now. It’s what I believed most of my life, and I thought… well, I hoped that I was in the “non-racist” category.
As white people, we presume that the status quo with respect to race is that things are pretty ok. We think all white people can’t be racist because that would mean that the status quo is all screwed up, and like I said we presume the status quo is pretty ok. We have the privilege of believing that racism is not normal, not typical, not endemic.
But in fact the normal state of affairs it not ok, and people of color know it. They live it every day. Many will admit it openly to white people. Most will admit it with other people of color. Racism is bad, yet it’s normal, typical, endemic.
Contrary to the beliefs of racism deniers, the status quo is, in fact, all screwed up. The only thing allowing us to think that racism is rare is our whiteness.
As white people, we often respond with one of the following, when we’re accused of racism, whether directly (you’re racist!) or indirectly as a proxy for our race (those white people are racist!):
- yes, but I/they didn’t know there were racial connotations to that.
- yes, but I/they weren’t intending to be racist.
- yes, but I/they don’t actually believe that about people of color.
- yes, but not all white people do/say that.
- yes, but I/they are clearly a good person because of x,y, and z so don’t be mad!
These statements can all be roughly translated as:
- yes, they did do that, but let’s not talk about that, instead affirm that white people, aka me, are still ok!
Whether being racist makes us bad people is a reasonable topic of conversation. There’s nothing wrong with talking about it, and there’s nothing wrong with arguing that people who say and do racist things can still be good people.
What is not okay, and in fact amounts to further racism, is the belief that in the midst of a complaint about racism it is ok to derail the conversation to talk about whether white people are good people.
It’s not ok. For the most part, someone who is raising the issue of racism, especially if they are a person of color, does not care whether white people are actually good people, ethically speaking. To demand that the conversation focuses on that issue is to derail the concerns of people of color and privilege the concerns of white people. That’s racist too.
The sad truth is that this tactic is just one of a huge bag of tricks we white people have for pushing the concerns of people of color into the background without acknowledging our racism. Identifying and disabling these hidden tricks in ourselves is a difficult, lifelong pursuit. But it’s the only way to heal our racism, and it’s peanuts compared to the crap people of color have to deal with every day.
Racism is real, and the way to respond when someone brings it up is to respond with genuine concern and humility, and acknowledgment that yes, in fact, we white people do and say racist things. Conversations about racism are an opportunity to learn to be a little less so.