Monthly Archive for December, 2008

A rare gift

There is a great post over at Womanist Musings about raising feminist sons. Here’s a tiny excerpt:

When I found out that I was having a boy I was initially disappointed. What was I going to do with a boy I thought. I have big feminist ambitions and for that I need a girl I thought. As my son grew I realized first hand that sexism isn’t only an issue of women, it is an issue for everyone. I watched as despite my idea of gender neutral parenting the world was determined to teach my little guy that all boys like cars and girls play with my little ponies. I looked at him dumbfounded the first time he used the feminine in a pejorative manner.

Read the rest.

Campbell Soup Company = did something good

I’ve written a few times here about companies to avoid, but here’s one to support: Campbell Soup Company.

I just read on The Curvature about an ad they put in the magazines featuring a lesbian couple and their young son.

In response, the American “Family” Association (whose primary agenda ironically is to tear apart American families) asked their members to protest. But Campbell’s didn’t bite:

“We support all types of families, regardless of how they’re defined, [and have done so] for more than 100 years,” Sanzio offers. “We advertise in a variety of different media outlets that appeal to a broad spectrum of society. That’s what we’re doing here, and that’s what we’ll continue to do.”

As Cara points out, there’s “not even a small note of apology in there… No, ‘we’re sorry if anyone was offended’ or ‘we didn’t intend to take a political stance.’ Nothing like that at all.”

I wrote a note to Campbell thanking them (here) for their basic decency, and plan to keep an eye out for Campbell products I might want to incorporate into my grocery shopping.

Terrible (Updated)

I just read a palestinian account of the bombings, over at israelity bites (linked from flip flopping joy):

I’ve never seen anything like this. It all happened so fast but the amount of death and destruction is inconceivable, even to me and I’m in the middle of it and a few hours have already passed. I think 15 locations were hit during the air raid on Gaza City. [some Israelis sources said 150 targets were struck] The images are probably not broadcast in US media. There are piles and piles of bodies in the locations that were hit. As you look at them you can see that a few of the young men are still alive, someone lifts a hand here, and another raise his head there. They probably died within moments because their bodies are burned, most have lost limbs, some have their guts hanging out and they’re all lying in pools of blood. Outside my home, (which is close to the universities) a bomb fell on a large group of young men, university students, they’d been warned not to stand in groups, it makes them an easy target, but they were waiting for buses to take them home. This was about 3 hours ago 7 were killed, 4 students and 3 of our neighbors kids, teenagers who were from the same family (Rayes) and were best friends. As I’m writing this I heard a funeral procession go by outside, I looked out the window and it was the 3 Rayes boys, They spent all their time together when they were alive, and now their sharing the same funeral together. Nothing could stop my 14 year old brother from rushing out to see the bodies of his friends laying in the street after they were killed. He hasn’t spoken a word since.
A little further down the street about an hour earlier 3 girls happened to be passing by one of the locations when a bomb fell. The girls bodies were torn into pieces and covered the street from one side to the other.

In general, I am against Israeli aggression. Their recent attacks, particularly those on Lebanon, have been uncalled for.

And I am concerned about this report that Israel is targetting groups of civilians.

However, I think the Hamas bombings in response to border closures were not called for, and I don’t begrudge Israel responding to violence with violence.

Normally I would be against punishing Palestinians for the actions of Hamas, but since they elected a Hamas majority in their government, they have less of my sympathy.

Still, Israel continues to respond with orders of magnitude more force than what has been inflicted on them. As an American I hardly have the right to condemn that, but as a human being I do.

The Israeli bombings should stop. Americans should put pressure on Israel to stop their non-violent aggression: the border closings, the wall building, etc. Hamas should stop bombing, and use diplomatic channels to keep the Palestinian borders open. And the Palestinians should vote Hamas out of office if they continue to fight non-violence with violence.

Update: bint alshamsa has a very different description of what’s happening over at My Private Casbah. And in retrospect, I don’t think it’s appropriate for me to say what the Palestinians should or should not do, given the unimaginable violence they are facing:

What’s going on in Gaza right now is no different from what went on inside of the Warsaw Ghetto. The Nazis first confined the Jews and then proceeded to deprive them of food and medical care. Soon people began to drop dead from diseases due to lack of treatment and lack of proper nutrition. When those in the ghetto realized what was in store for them, they used improvised explosive devices (IEDs), Molotov cocktails and whatever arms they could get their hands on to attack the Nazis. Did they think they could win? There was no way the weapons at their disposal could stop the Nazis from coming in and killing them all. Realistically, all they could do was peacefully die at the hands of the Nazis or die fighting. If they chose the latter, perhaps they’d manage to kill a few of the Nazis in the process, so I can understand why many chose to fight.

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Beauty in mind

I’ve been noticing today that how I feel about my body can shift very quickly. One minute I’ll feel awesome, the next minute I’ll feel like crap. It seems pretty random too, having mostly to do with my wandering attention. When I notice features of my body I like, I feel super sexy. When I notice features I don’t like, I feel disgusting.

The important thing to note here is that it my beauty has nothing at all to do with the structure of my body, and everything to do with the structure of my thoughts.

I guess the next step is to try to take notice of what makes me notice one set of features or another. I know yoga makes me feel pretty good. I think yoga draws my attention to the awesome functional aspects of my body, and the beautiful aesthetics that arise from that.

Yet another reason to do yoga in the morning!

Inward

kameelah writes:

+ do you remember?: do you remember when this blog was completely political? i would comment on myself occassionally, but my focus was on raising awareness about african politics and domestic movements. i have not abandon such an effort, however, i have realized that in years of focusing on that which is external to me, i have neglected reflecting on my internal interworkings. i would apologize, but i am not really apologetic. the personal is political. and the political is here if you listen closely enough.

I’ve been feeling something similar lately. Not that you could tell by the way I run my mouth on this blog.

LittleBigPlanet

This game looks so fun! Too bad it’s not available for the Wii!

Men in conversation

I just came across an article on consensus decision making written by Bill Moyelri, which has a great list of behaviors men often use to dominate conversation.  Even though I’ve been working on these things for a while, it reads like a laundry list of my personality traits to me:

Hogging the show. Talking too much, too long, too loud.

Problem solver. continually giving the answer or solution before others have had much chance to contribute.

Speaking in capital letters. Giving one’s own solutions or opinions as the final word on the subject, often aggravated by tone of voice and body posture.

Defensiveness. Responding to every contrary opinion as though it were a personal attack.

Nit-picking. Picking out minor flaws in statements of others and stating the exception to every generality.

Restating. Especially what a woman has just said perfectly clearly.

Attention seeking. Using all sort of dramatics to get the spotlight.

Task and content focus. To the exclusion of nurturing individuals or the group through attention to process and form.

Put downs and one-upmanship. ‘I used to believe that, but now…” or ‘How can you possibly say that … ?” Negativism. Finding something wrong or problematical in everything.

Focus transfer. Transferring the focus of the discussion to one’s own pet issues in order to give one’s own pet raps.

Residual office holder. Hanging on to former powerful positions.

Self-listening. Formulating a response after the first few sentences, not listening to anything from that point on, and leaping in at the first pause.

George Custerism. Intransigence and dogmatism; taking a last stand for ones position on even minor
items.

Condescension and paternalism.

Being ‘on the make”. Treating women seductively; using sexuality to manipulate women.
Seeking attention and support from women while competing with men.

Running the show. Continually taking charge of tasks before others have the chance to volunteer.

Graduate studentitis. Protectively storing key group information for one’s own use and benefit.

Speaking for others. ‘A lot of us .think that we should. . . “or “What so and so really meant was…”

Blip.fm is dead

Sad but true.  Or maybe not dead, but certainly zombified.

I have been super into Blip for the last few months.  For me it’s a continuous mix tape on the web.  The songs I am listening to on repeat, I can put in there, with a little note about why I like it, and then I can come back and listen to my musical history.  I love hearing the songs I’m loving now, followed by the songs I was loving weeks and months ago.

But they recently stopped accepting uploads, which means I can’t put the songs I’ve bought on there.  Which means the songs I love just aren’t on Blip.  And songs I’ve blipped in the past are slowly getting blocked, so I can’t even listen to my old favorites.

Which means Blip is basically useless to me now.  I *might* start uploading my mp3s to my own server to serve there, but it just seems like a pain in the butt.  Too bad.  It was fun while it lasted.

The sad part is, I would’ve paid $2, maybe $5 dollars per blip, just for the pleasure of being able to listen in that format and share those songs will my friends.  But that wasn’t they’re business model.  There was no way to pay for the service at all.  Oh well.  Into the dustbin with Muxtape you go.  What’s next?

Stress

What’s stressing me out:

  • not moving “fast” enough on Forkolator
  • not doing enough for my moving
  • the thought of having bills and stuff undone before I leave on Monday
  • Christmas presents for my family

Therefore my todo list priorities should be:

  • Start Forkolator Cucumber task for editing files
  • Call Micha
  • Write down list of moving out things
  • Sort through mail
  • Pay CC bill
  • spend 10 minutes on Mint.com
  • spend some minutes writing down my gift ideas

In theory, if I do those things I won’t be stressed any more, right?  Or at least less so?

This is from a week or two ago. The coop is almost done now.

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