I haven’t been running for at least a month. And then not for several months before that. Twenty steps out the door, I am thinking running is not just therapudic for me, it is *cathartic*.
I run out to the road, taking a side track around the one-story office space behind our apartment complex. I pee on the edge of the woods behind a dumpster, and look at the stream a few feet into the trees. I take a few steps toward the stream, and there is some frantic activity in the water. I don’t like that I scared some animal, and so I turn around and run out to the street.
A few hundred feet along, I stop at a clearing. I walk down into the field, and crouch down, thinking the grass is wet. It’s not, so I sit. I stare at the high tension power lines running along this track of field. There’s a stream in front of me that’s only there because of the road. I mean, it’s only there in that exact spot because of the road. Before it was following the curves of the earth, heading for the ocean in some sort of purposeful way, but now it’s just cradled in the ditch left by the road. I realize how comforted I am by the combination of nature and rural infrastructure. It reminds me of home.
I used to do this at home, on the field off of woodland road. One time I was so upset about some family stuff that I threw on my running shoes and headed down Gurleyville Road and cried and cried and cried, running out towards Woodland. I got to that field, and walked out into the night sky, and sat down. I think I only remember this because a car stopped and the driver asked if I was OK. I told him I was.
So I realized sitting on this field (tonight, not however many years ago) that I’ve been clamoring for comfort the last couple of weeks. I’ve been eating… overeating, to try to comfort myself. I eat until I am overfull, I eat until I am no longer accountable for my behavior. I remove my responsibility for myself by eating until I can’t eat anymore. I’ve been sleeping in. I’ve been procrastinating. I’ve been listening to music… seeking out music that I couldn’t get this year because I couldn’t be in the choirs. I’ve been dying for experiences like Horsebarn Hill with Meaghan and Ben and Niamh four years ago. I’ve been dying for that, and I haven’t been getting it. There’s no-one here who I feel like I can call at 11pm on a Thursday and say “hey, can I just come over and hang out?” That’s why I’ve been missing Meaghan. She was always that person for me, who didn’t care about itineraries.
So I’m doing all of these things–self-destructive things because it’s go time. I have this paper I’m working on for Yvonne, about the role of theory in HCI, and it’s killing me. It’s a week late now, and it’s crap. I want very much to do this thing, but all my self doubt is just piling up like dirty laundry in front of the door to my room. I go running to comfort myself, when I should be working. Even this… even this introspective writing is a mechanism for me to hide from my fears.
So, I’m going to shave, and I’m going to take a shower. Cleaning myself up is another thing I can do, and then maybe I’m going to sit down and knock some essay out. Maybe. It’s a struggle.